Brain weasels, linguistically, are their own entities. By naming them as something other than your sweetie, you’ve managed to address the problematic behavior without actually blaming the person.
racism / relationships
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Sometimes You Can Overcorrect: Objectification Ain’t The Answer To Institutional Racism
So first, let me share this video with you. It’s called “Sexual Racism”, and was sparked by a question on a Q/A panel: Someone from the audience asked […]
polyamory / relationships / society
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Are You Built For Monogamy, Or Should You Trust An Expert Outside of Their Field? (ATTN @drroshiniraj )
“Mashable Watercooler” posted a video today called “Are You Built For Monogamy?”. The whole thing is crap. Dr. Roshini Raj (the presenter) is a board certified gastroenterologist. Which […]
relationships
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Let’s stop calling everyone narcissists, sociopaths, etc.
There are trends in relationship-land. It’s not surprising; humans are great at pattern-recognition. We love models that provide explanations. We love labels that reduce people into easily-predictable stereotypes. […]
rant / relationships
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Understanding and forgiveness are two way streets. Unless you’re a jerk.
I said it before, and I stand by it: the most important question on OKCupid is Would you rather date someone who almost never made a mistake but […]
rant / rape / rape culture / relationships
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Even if it’s not a “fuck yes”, it damn well still better be a yes.
I have had to remind people – women, let’s just go ahead and acknowledge that it’s only been women – that “marital rape” is both morally and legally […]