Understanding and forgiveness are two way streets. Unless you’re a jerk.

I said it before, and I stand by it: the most important question on OKCupid is Would you rather date someone who almost never made a mistake but doesn’t admit their flaws, or someone who often messes up but takes full responsibility for their mistakes? There is only one correct answer to this question. Because […]

There’s always a price. Acknowledge it. Deal with it. And maybe change your life.

Pretending you’re not making the decisions you are is a fucking quick way to not only be unhappy, but to be a royal asshole to everyone around you. Dan Savage calls this the price of admission in relationships, and it’s a bloody brilliant concept, and works for pretty much everything. Here’s why: You have to […]

We are not things. Intent matters.

“It doesn’t matter what someone believes. It’s how they act that matters.” Sometimes the most awful things are hidden behind bits of truth. Because ultimately, behavior does matter. That’s true. But it’s awful, because it pretends that we live in a world of philosophical zombies. Intent matters in relationships. “If someone’s kicking me, I want […]