Holding You Hostage With A Lie: Fears and Brain Weasels

There’s a reason I keep talking about fears, both here and in real life. Fears must be pulled out, dissected, and exposed in the light of day. At first, pulling those fears out is difficult. They’re like mental ingrown hangnails. But pulling those brain weasels out of your head and dealing with them becomes easier […]

How To Have a Dysfunctional Relationship In One Easy Step

If you don’t have trust in your personal relationships, you have a dysfunctional relationship. Period. Full stop. Don’t read through each other’s private messages (in any medium). Don’t censor their phone calls. Don’t obsess over who they did (or didn’t) see at the mall, or work, or gym. Sure, you can ask your significant other(s) who […]

Learn that you’re not going to change thier mind.

One of the hardest things for me to learn was that some people are going to think whatever they’re going to think about you no matter what you do. Usually the people that you interact with regularly, who know you pretty well, and who care about you will give you the benefit of the doubt […]

You can’t respect yourself if you don’t know yourself… and tell others.

You’ll usually see this quotation weaponized after a breakup: “Respect yourself. If you don’t, others won’t either.” I say that you’ll see it “weaponized” because in those cases what’s really being said is “I didn’t get what I wanted, and I’m upset about it.” The intent is less to build up the person saying it, and […]