The way to celebrate mothers in a world of breeders

Are you a mother? No, I don’t mean “have you born a child”. That’s a completely different question. Because there’s the biological process of being an egg donor, or a womb renter. Those things are mechanical. They just happen, and have nothing to do with being a parent. You can be unable to have children […]

My ex-wife’s advice to my son is horrible. That’s a good thing.

My ex-wife’s advice to my son is horrible.1 Photo by Daniel Cheung on Unsplash Well, mostly horrible. There’s some good bits spread in among it. In general, though, there’s a lot of unexamined assumptions and rationalizations disguised as logical thought. This is actually a good thing. And I realized it because someone shouted “FAKE NEWS” […]

It’s time to quit stigmatizing single parents and start acknowledging them.

I was a single parent when being a single parent wasn’t okay. Photo by Sebastián León Prado on Unsplash Well, it was for me; I was a male single parent. I routinely got praised for … well, existing, I guess. It never made sense to me, because the same people who praised me would also […]

There’s a Price of Admission to Dating A Parent

Here is a simple thing that I never really thought I’d have to spell out: If you start (non-casually) dating someone with kids, be aware that you will be a part of those kid’s lives, and will have to take on familial responsibilities. If you’re not interested in that, don’t start dating someone with kids (and […]