Your Goals Are Not Specific Actions

The principle I used when talking about the difference between the strength of a relationship and what you do in that relationship applies elsewhere in relationships, business, academics… pretty much anywhere else in life. The key is disassociating goals (or needs) from specific actions. I know, this sounds like the opposite of every bit of […]

There's more than just deciding to "round up" a partner

Dan Savage often talks about there not being a “the one”; he says there’s a 0.67 and you round up. It’s a nice turn of phrase, and skewers the existing myth nicely. But it has a weakness: its quantitation. It implies that there is a certain set of checkmarks or critieria that a potential partner […]

A Quick Reminder About My “Artistic License” Policy (Or: I’m Not Talking About You)

As I already had two e-mails overnight from different friends of mine with kids from yesterday’s post about Savage U I thought this would make a good time to remind people about the “Artistic License” page that covers all posts I make. It’s a strange thing in my life: Topics seem to come in waves. […]

If You Have A Teenager, I Think You Should Watch This Show With Them. Now.

A friend of mine recently learned that his teenaged son had become sexually active. The first thing I said: “Thank goodness your son felt comfortable enough to tell you.” The second thing? “You should probably watch Savage U with your kid.” And if you’re a parent with teenage kids, you probably should too. I mentioned […]