Fair warning here folks: I’m struggling with this topic myself. I think I’m thinking clearly, but I’m still reeling from recent events, and want to be up front about that. I’m just a guy with an opinon.
A toilet can tell us a lot about boundaries.
There isn’t an easy guide if you step away from the “default”. But it can be a worthwhile path.
When “physical touch” gets called “libido”, a whole different set of assumptions and judgements gets pulled into the mix.